My muscle mass has reduced, my fat ratio has increased and, for what it's worth, my 36B boobs are entirely natural. In a fitting tribute to its founding president & editor in chief, Chief Learning Officer magazine unveiled the Norman B. Kamikow Learning Leadership Award, naming Diana Thomas, VP U.S . I am not faking this. And yet, ironically, I thought I was protecting my family and my marriage by trying so hard to be a real man, she writes. Thomas earned a B.A. It was all I could do not to give a triumphant fist-pump and a shout of: 'Yessss!!' Diana Thomas is an associate professor of economics at Creighton University. I was out for a walk recently in the lovely, downland countryside near my Sussex home, when I approached a gate across the path. She wrote an article for the Daily Mail, headed "Ex-Cambridge University rower and married dad DIANA THOMAS spent six decades as a man So why does she say trans militants are only stoking intolerance?" As I was lying in hospital, another battle was raging in the trans war, and, once again, it was a battle supposedly fought for trans rights that will do nothing but harm to trans people. Liked by Dianna Thomas Join now to see all activity Experience Crime Author Shreveport Police Academy Sep 1990 - Present32 years 8 months Shreveport, Louisiana Area Author of 2 books of. [11] Bindel described Thomas's 1992 book Not Guilty: The Case in Defence of Men, as "a rant about how feminists have the brass neck to blame men for the terrible things they do to women, rather than themselves. It moves on to a section called Frocks Away (p104-8) in which he discusses drag parties at Mick Jaggers house, Bohemian Grove drag events for the super elite, Paris is Burning, drag star Lypsinka being featured in Vanity Fairin November 1992 and in Esquire magazine, Wigstock, and a survey that showed that only 2% of women accept cross-dressing from their male partner, while female cross-dressing is repeatedly common in fashion. This byline is mine, but I want my name removed. That meant I had a room to myself. Then I had a lip lift if you look you can see the scar on the bottom of my nose. Her close friend Roberto Devorik says that Diana always believed she was going to die young. Mostly, though, I was 'love', 'my darling', or even, on one occasion, 'sweetheart'. Diana Thomas. She also writes regularly for Architectural Digest and Elle Decor. For her Telegraph column about transitioning, shes been named Columnist of the Year and has received the prestigious discretionary British Press Awards Chairmans Award. There is a lot of nurturing in me that has gone to waste and there is a lot of love that is not being used up, she says in such a heartfelt way that I find myself tempted to give her a great big woman-to-woman hug. Moment Oakland DoorDash driver takes picture of pizza on doorstep before STEALING it - after manager ordered him to drop it off to business that was ransacked by burglars costing $70,000, Roman Polanski's wife reposts photo of Oscar-winning director with his 1977 teenage rape victim Samantha Geimer who says 'he's paid his debt to society'. They also reveal Diana's inner concerns in her final years. As a trans woman, I would have been a social outcast. Gays are to straights as California is to Arkansas.. Shes six feet tall, and she used to be an athlete, a rower. Diana is the co-author of the 2018 strategic leadership book, Be More Strategic in Business: How to win through Stronger Leadership and Smarter Decisions. They told me my feelings of being in the wrong body were just sexual fantasies, a phase I would get over. Text is available under the Creative . Being true to who I am has made me a calmer, happier person, and much easier to be around. The views expressed in the contents above are those of our users and do not necessarily reflect the views of MailOnline. Write about our achievements, not the same old prurient rubbish. It's not that we don't believe in the idea of male or female: it's that our personal experience tells us gender is neither so simple, nor so absolute, as a question of X and Y chromosomes. Because I had known for a very long time that I was not really one of the guys. He was Young Journalist of the Year at age 24, a magazine editor at 25 and in 1989 the youngest ever editor of the 150-year-old Punch magazine where he stayed for three years. We all deserve better. Now that the scars from her facial surgery in November have healed she is finally ready at almost 62 to go fulltime as Diana. In all the disruption of 2020, certain basic principles of strategic leadership have become even more critical to surviving and thriving. This is all hurtful and scary. Newcastle, when Diana Thomas Chief Financial Officer at Capco, LLC Grand Junction, CO Capco, LLC, +8 more University of South Carolina - The Moore School of Business, +2 more Diana Thomas Marketing operations. The correct term is now 'chestfeeding'. I was desperate to believe that was true. Her books include Deluxe: How Luxury Lost Its Luster, Gods and Kings: The Rise and Fall of Alexander McQueen and John Galliano and Fashionopolis: The Price of Fast Fashion and the Future of Clothes. She now writes. Add some good to your morning and evening. JAMA: Journal of the American Medical Association. Most trans women dont have 40,000 to spend in that way. He could have been excused for mourning the loss of his only son. She writes of her delight at a few words exchanged with other walkers in the country, which she thinks indicate her being treated as a woman. Box 500 Station A Toronto, ON Canada, M5W 1E6. I had seen David several times during his transition and wed chatted about facial hair and breasts, but nothing prepared me for how moved I felt when I watched the elegant woman come tripping along the pavement with a dainty, ladylike step. But here's the thing. I must say that I never understood why the prospect of trans people in ladies loos is scary. "She would say, 'I think they are going to kill me. Perhaps our response is a sort of metaphor for the limitations that are placed upon male behavior as a whole. Its like saying to a shark, But why did you go and eat that surfer? Because I am a shark, thats what I do, she says with a grin before adding, in a more serious tone, For once in my life as a journalist I actually felt I had a real moral purpose. It is a little over a year since DT (as she is known to close friends) began to chronicle her transition in her column for this magazine. Facebook gives people the power to share and makes the world more open and connected. In hindsight, I think I should have had the guts to be totally honest with myself, and everyone else, much sooner. For men, the opposite is true. And the thing about me is that although the name on my driving licence, tax return and NHS record is Diana Thomas, I was born male. Its amazing how quickly he accepted me as his daughter.. In February 2015, Penguin Press published Thomas's second book, Gods and Kings: The Rise and Fall of Alexander McQueen and John Galliano,[5] an investigative double biography of two monumental British fashion designers who succumbed to the pressures of corporate luxury fashion in a globalized world. The further down the road I go, the happier I get. Privilege is relative. Diana is still enforcing her transphobia on other trans folk. She feels some need to bare all in the Mail, and tolerate their use of a pre-transition photograph. Of course, there are bound to be complications. Diana Thomas is a privileged trans woman, even though thats normally a contradiction in terms. French police stated that Paul was under the influence of alcohol when he took to the wheel that night. Even the most difficult and delicate part of her ongoing road to full transition is something she is ridiculously upbeat about. So, if I explain why JK Rowlings opinions offend moderate, intelligent trans people, theyll say things like, I find your arguments unpersuasive, or, Of course, youll never be a woman. I have this opportunity late in middle age when a lot of people are feeling a sense of, Oh my God is this it? and maybe thinking that they were never quite the person they wanted to be. Clearly happier in her own more muted and understated clothes than in some of the brighter, bolder coloured coats, skirts and dresses that have been called in by the stylist (Diana admits that in the last 18 months or so she has almost caught up on the 40 years of shopping she missed out on when she was David), these days her taste tends towards modern classics such as Me+Em and Uniqlo. Youve got no idea. Her life of achievement is mostly behind her. In November 1995, two years before her death, Princess Diana agreed to a television interview with Martin Bashir from Panorama, the BBC's flagship current affairs program. But as I emerge into my new female life, I find that I, and other trans people like me, are at the centre of one of the most bitter wars raging through our culture. They did not use some contorted form of language to pretend that medical reality was anything other than it actually is. In that sense, surely, she is being brave? The facial surgery, for example, hasnt left her with that alien look it sometimes does, but it was extensive, and the shoulder-length brunette bob she boasts today involved an initial process of hair weaving and extensions that requires regular upkeep at a specialist salon. I was filled with shame, self-disgust, bursting with pent-up anger and unhappiness. We know there is passing privilege. What women really want? I mean, the first few times I went out as Diana I w o u l d w a l k down the street and my knees would be knocking, but here is the thing: I could never go back to being David. So its rather odd when people say what I am doing is brave, because what is brave about being happy? Can she, I ask, put a price on becoming Diana? The reason for this is that trans men, who have retained the female reproductive system they were born with, can and do give birth. These days, it takes at least an hour longer, but that hour is kind of fun, she says. Thomas' mother is the Liberal Democrat peer Baroness Thomas of Walliswood. While in Paris, Williams-Thomas also questions Martine Monteil, the police officer who led the French investigation into the crash, and reviews the forensic evidence. You may type in a name if you don't have a Google id. Lets get JK into the Oxford Union and then Ill argue against the motion, This house believes no man can be a woman. Thomas is engaging and vital., In 2019, she wrote the screenplay for Salvatore Ferragamo: The Shoemaker of Dreams, an award-winning feature-length documentary directed by Oscar-nominated Italian filmmaker Luca Guadagnino. My father, bless him, was over 80 when I told him. She was privileged because she got into Cambridge University. Why wouldnt I write about it? As Bowies Life on Mars ends and the next song begins his 1974 anthem Rebel Rebel a mischievous expression crosses her newly lifted face. [2] She was mocked in Private Eye for her frequent contribution to these newspapers, being satirised as "Daily Thomas of the David Mail". I use the immigration analogy because in the same way that immigrants bring to their host nation things from their own culture food, music, whatever I think I can bring or we can bring something new and interesting to the female experience. For the first few years of her life, Thomas lived in Moscow and has also lived in Washington, D.C. and Havana, Cuba. Others are quite happy going some of the way, stopping and thinking: 'Yes, this is far enough.'. LGB All Liars, Graham Linehan and other extreme phobes have created a bogeyman, the sexual predator who pretends to be trans in order to enter womens spaces but is not really trans. "Tim Dowling talks to David Thomas".BBC. Diana Thomas (pictured) says: 'Politically, I think we have to find a way to acknowledge and even celebrate the identity of trans people that does not undermine everyone else's identity' Using a. On the other are the trans activists who insist that all a person should have to do to change sex is wake up one morning, say, 'I'm a woman,' or, 'I'm a man,' and that is enough to make them what they want to be, regardless of how they look, sound, talk or behave. Now he is waving goodbye to his old male self. The love I felt for my family was and always will be true. Conversations At Scarfes Bar: Diana Thomas. Some of the faff , she concedes, has been both painful and costly. But surely, I persist, part of the dream she is pursuing must include the idea that one day her prince will come? I love creating a beautiful home, nothing makes me happier except possibly cooking a lovely meal or going shopping. Conversations At Scarfes Bar: Diana Thomas. I wanted to be a husband and father. Was driver Henri Paul under the influence of alcohol that night? David went on to become a prolific award-winning journalist and editor of Punch, settling down to married life with two daughters and a son. Hello Diana. In 2008, the British inquest concluded that the accident was caused by the grossly negligent driving of chauffeur Henri Paul and the group of paparazzi photographers who were following the car. Nor can such a person whose baby is happily guzzling milk from their nipple be described as 'breastfeeding'. for three years, David Thomas back on the beach at Honestly, it's not that hard. She spent 40,000 on hormones, laser, electrolysis, and coaching to feminise her face, hair, body and voice. Even if it did take me 45 years to follow that idea through.. Privacy Policy & Cookie Statement / Competition T&Cs / Terms & Conditions / Social Competition Terms & Conditions / Competition Past Winners / Sitemap, 2023 Country & Town House. I mean I still do that thing ofsitting down on Saturday and watching Sky Sports before the game, during the game and after the game because four geezers talking football constitutes entertainment to me. Yes, its lovely, and its also perfectly normal. She says she went to all-boys schools, which probably though not certainly means fee-paying schools rather than public schools. I sashayed into this dinner wearing a quite fitted, mid-thigh-length dark-grey dress with a cowl neck that I matched with tights, kitten heels, big hair and some pearls and it worked. Oh, hell yeah. For all her rather beguiling enthusiasm for her new life, she remains, I cant help but feel, very vulnerable. A groundbreaking new documentary examines her final years and what really led to the accident that night in a Paris tunnel. Change), You are commenting using your Facebook account. Sometimes people say to me, Why do you want to be a woman? The boy partly grew up in Havana and Washington, DC on later postings, and thenhad an elite education at Eton (paid for by the Foreign Office) and Cambridge(where he first spoke to psychiatrists about gender incongruity). I was being accepted and treated, by a complete stranger, as a woman. The revealing segment made headlines around the world after Diana exposed her and Prince Charles's extramarital affairs. I spent most of my childhood at all-boys' schools. Except in some cases it can't be called 'maternity' any more it will be known as 'perinatal services'. The boys at school had posters of Raquel Welch in a fur bikini on their walls. My two sisters think of me (and, I suspect, prefer me) as their big sis, rather than big bro. . We do not, for instance, talk about her ex-wife (they were married for 30 years) or their three grown-up children; two daughters and a son (I promised I would not write or talk about them). The London Transgender Clinic on Instagram: "Columnist for @telegraph, Diana Thomas has recently come out to her readers in an emotional article. And had her car really been tampered with? Join Facebook to connect with Diane Thomas and others you may know. In the documentary, Williams-Thomas retraces Diana's steps in Paris, where Diana spent her final days with filmmaker Dodi Fayed in August 1997, and tracks down crash witnesses who have never spoken publicly. "So, for me, something happened that we don't know. I even use the same patches as a couple of my girlfriends. As for the widespread public theories that Paul's blood samples could have been inaccurate or switched is there any truth to these claims? You might wait years to see a specialist psychiatrist and not want hormones obtained illicitly. I looked in the mirror and I thought, Oh that doesnt look like a guy. And that was a new experience for me. Along the way, I believe we need to acknowledge who we were as much as who we become. She is hoping that she will gain a similar level of approval from the public as she received a week previously when she attended a dinner party thrown by a university mate and his wife to introduce Diana to their old friends. He married and they had three children. Some people tell me that trans women are still dangerous men who should be banned from women-only spaces. With any luck, that should be possible within the next six months. In 1987, she received the Society of Professional Journalists Sigma Delta Chi Foundation Scholarship and the Ellis Haller Award for Outstanding Achievement in Journalism.[10]. As a journalist, you can create a free Muck Rack account to customize your profile, list your contact preferences, and upload a portfolio of your best work. Source: The Telegraph @telegraph PH: Bex Day @bex_day * * * * Thomas was born in Washington, D.C. and raised in Radnor, Pennsylvania. David Thomas.Media: The dirty world of Mr Punch: Punch is fighting back by hitting below the belt. Its such a faff. And it is a faff, but I love the faff. ', The woman with him laughed, gave me a conspiratorial, female eye-roll and said: 'Well, she's not going to jump over it, is she?'. No trans person declares themself without a great deal of soul-searching or suffering. Yes, yes is the answer. Where can a female with a male health condition go without causing stress and embarrassment to her, or to other patients around her? Diana Thomas (pictured) says: 'Politically, I think we have to find a way to acknowledge and even celebrate the identity of trans people that does not undermine everyone else's identity'. Lima, Peru, "[11] The column ended on 19 December 2020, with Thomas bidding an emotional farewell to her readers as she reflected on her harrowing transgender journey. I havent yet had a change that doesnt make me feel better. Its still swollen, it will take a year to go down but then it will be a much neater tip. He may be six feet six, bearded, and wearing combat boots on his feet, but if he's got a skirt around his waist, he's no longer a man in the eyes of the world. Jane Gordon. A variety of newsletters you'll love, delivered straight to you. What impact did Diana's revealing BBC interview have on the final years of her life? Thats the internalised transphobia again. where he was editor LIV Golf rebel Talor Gooch laments losing almost half his prize money from the Saudi-funded tour's inaugural event Down Under after the Australian taxman took 47% of his $6m cheque, Former St Louis Cardinals star and legendary broadcaster Mike Shannon dies aged 83 - as owner Bill DeWitt Jr leads tributes honouring to the two-time World Series champion for his 'unbridled passion for the game', Was $5m bank heist an MI5 plot to seize stolen photos of Princess Margaret having sex with a gangster? It takes only one or two non-masculine elements to intrude upon a man's appearance for his whole identity to fall apart. If she did not have internalised transphobia, she would have more dignity than to write about her private prostate surgery in the Daily Mail. She wrote an article for the Daily Mail, headed Ex-Cambridge University rower and married dad DIANA THOMAS spent six decades as a man So why does she say trans militants are only stoking intolerance?. My experience of coming out as transgender and living as a trans woman has overwhelmingly been one of kindness, acceptance, tolerance and well-wishing. The comments below have been moderated in advance. Now we meet again at Scarfes and Dianas in a celebratory mood. I am not female in the same way you are because I have never in my life had a period, but of course at our age nor does any other woman. But suppose I had been at an NHS hospital: should I have been on a male or female ward? Certainly, my surgeon seemed satisfied when he saw me a day later. So five years ago, I could say 'I am transgender', and know that it was true and I had the psychiatrists' reports to prove it. in Print Journalism at American University in Washington D.C. in 1988. Her 87-year-old father succumbed to Covid. She spent 25 years as a journalist,[6] working for publications such as The Daily Mail and The Mail on Sunday. All rights reserved. Plus, theres a belief that sex changes are being handed out to children like Smarties, when its actually very hard to get gender confirmation surgery at any age. What a difference a year makes: when our columnist David Thomas started his transgender diary last March, little did he anticipate the ups, downs and expense of what it was going to take to become a woman. There is a lot of talk about the agony of childbirth, but you dont get an epidural when you have your legs lasered. Then, of course, her transition to Diana remains dependent on the hormones that she says with a grin she mainlines. Diana Willow Penrose Thomas formerly known as David William Penrose Thomas is gyrating her body to the soundtrack of her youth in the London studio where she is making her modelling debut. Diana is an Editorial Advisory Board member for Chief Learning Officer magazine, a faculty member for Media Tech's CLO Accelerator Class, a Board Member for the National Diversity Council, and a past member of Tri-City Family Services' Board of Directors and an Advisory Board Member for the American Council on Education. In order to be able to go bare-legged when she is wearing a dress, for example, she has had to have extensive body-hair removal. Strong leaders are those who successfully navigate a great shift: from tactical doer to strategic leader. So I do not regret my male life. In 2010, McQueen killed himself; a year later Galliano was fired from the creative helm of Christian Dior for a drunken anti-Semitic outburst in a Paris caf. Finally, when my transition is complete, and I possess a Gender Recognition Certificate, I will define myself as a woman. [12], As Diana Thomas, she has written in her defence that transitioning could be considered analogous to immigration: If someone born in India comes to Britain legally, passes the citizenship test and gets a UK passport, who dares say, Youre not British? His only concern was my well-being and the fact that he had had no idea, and he wished he had known. . I mean, just how lunatic do you have to be to transfer a male sex-offender convicted of raping women to a womens prison, just because he has suddenly decided that hes female, too? I dont know if anyone suddenly decides they are female, but while prisoners may lie I want trans women treated as women, even by prisons. I am getting my hormones from HRT, just as post-menopausal women do. Although I have had to readjust to how long it takes me to leave the house. Explore Diana Brooks's 295 photos on Flickr! But did no one stop for a second to consider how bog-standard natal females, who account for 99.9 per cent of all births, and regard motherhood as the most profoundly female of all experiences, might feel? I didnt change my initials because I wanted people to know that I was still the same person in practical terms. Using a laser inserted into my abdomen via a catheter in my urethra, the surgeon blasted away two-thirds of my grossly oversized prostate gland. Jun 4, 2020 Replying to @Telegraph and @TelegraphMag Not a woman. And that I might be one of them. Historians believe the Duke of Windsor actively collaborated with the Nazis during the Second World War. "Blood samples were taken immediately at the time of the accident and also during the autopsy," says Monteil, who reveals that those samples indicated Paul indeed had alcohol, as well as antidepressants, in his system. They experiment with attitudes and lifestyles that may take decades to reach the straight community. She suffers dreadfully from internalised transphobia. He was only ever kind and loving and was keeping all my columns to turn into a book for friends. Anyone can do it, if they try. As it was impossible to get my surgery on the NHS during Covid, I had to go private. By the time I was at university, I was seeing my first shrinks. She criticises how we look, sound, talk or behave, not accepting that we do our best to fit in, because we have internalised transphobia too. Repeat: Comments from "unknown" will be declined, as will anonymous comments. A graphic designer working for BBC later disclosed that Bashir had asked him to forge bank statements that showed a former employee of Earl Spencer, Diana's brother, had sold stories to a U.K. national newspaper. I mean look at me long legs, brand-new breasts, knows the offside rule and the LBW rule, and can tell a googly from a flipper and if you want to watch endless documentaries about World War II be my guest! Charlotte Metcalf. The first is that we drastically limit male freedom of action by drawing rigidly defined boundaries around the perimeters of acceptably masculine behaviour. The findings of the forensic team, along with all the other evidence gathered, may finally answer the remaining questions surrounding Diana's death. Feb 10, 2021 . It may be hurting, but is it working?. Remembering the life of Queen Elizabeth II: Our longest-reigning monarch. Nor do we go too far into the current clash between some feminists and the trans lobby, despite Dianas evident concern for the issue (she has previously revealed how upset she was by JK Rowlings tweet in support of Maya Forstater, who lost her job after suggesting that transgender people cannot change the sex they are biologically born with). The general public also want us all to have our bits rearranged, and will ask if we have done: there is slightly more acceptance for those who have, but this is in theory as why on earth would you answer such a question. This byline is for a different person with the same name. Discover a proven approach to strategic leadership from Diana Thomas and Stacey Boyle, two distinguished business-women with decades of business coaching experience and insights. Meanwhile, catch up on the last two columns here: The difference became obvious as I entered my teens, back in the early Seventies. The vast majority of people I meet are incredibly kind and positive towards me. [4] In Its a Sin, the men dying of AIDS think they deserve it because of their internalised homophobia, because homophobia was instilled in them like everyone else. Using it to hold oneself up as being superior to others is something else. Diana wants a new rule- greater acceptance for those who show they are trying. "A friend of mine on the program came to me and said, 'Our graphics artist, Matt Wiessler, has told me that Martin ordered him to forge two bank statements,'" says Mangold. Now research is suggesting that hormonal issues in the womb can cause the disparity between mind and body, the 'gender incongruence', as it is now termed, that is at the heart of the trans experience. They accepted the evidently female nature of my personal identity, and the undeniably masculine origins of my body. That shows self-hatred. You've got no idea", "My transgender diary: 'I don't want to be famous for being trans', "Conversations At Scarfes Bar: Diana Thomas | Interviews", https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Diana_Thomas_(writer)&oldid=1148174702, Short description is different from Wikidata, Articles with unsourced statements from April 2020, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License 3.0, This page was last edited on 4 April 2023, at 14:25. Diana Thomas's Profile | Daily Mail, Nature, The Telegraph Journalist | Muck Rack Diana Thomas As seen in: Daily Mail, Nature, The Telegraph, Color Research & Application, U.S. News & World Report, JAMA, JAMA: Journal of the American Medical Association, The JAMA Network, Zero Hedge, Lexology and more Is this you? It all started when Brighton and Sussex University Hospitals NHS Trust went 'full woke' on the subject of their maternity unit. Of course, as my experience in hospital this week has shown, part of me will always be male . I've come out to big, burly geezers who know me as a fellow West Ham supporter, and they've reacted just as positively as the mostly female, mostly 60-plus members of the choir in which, pre-Covid, I used to sing. [2], She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Deluxe: How Luxury Lost Its Luster, published by The Penguin Press in 2007. Language links are at the top of the page across from the title. Politically, I think we have to find a way to acknowledge and even celebrate the identity of trans people that does not undermine everyone else's identity. Lynn Barber / Jay Rayner / Nicholas Coleridge / Seb Coe / Tim Spector / Helen Browning. In 2019 Thomas announced that she was now Diana, and has written a column in the Daily Telegraph about her experiencesin transition. Then I wash my hands and leave. "And they were used to get the interview with Princess Diana." What is oppressive about that?, It is Dianas belief that trannies (a description of herself that she uses a lot) can bring something extra to womanhood. "[Diana] was taken from the car, and she was conscious when they took her out," he says. Because of internalised transphobia, and because she does not care about problems trans people have, which she does not think she personally will face. I wanted to be proud of who I was for once. I saw voice therapists but did not work well with them. The direction of travel is constant. Following the French investigation, the Metropolitan police in England launched their own inquiry into Diana's death. Could she have potentially survived her injuries from the crash?
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